If we love those who make us feel good, isn't it normal to avoid those who make us think badly of ourselves?
I still vividly remember my childhood crushes , and the magnificent feeling that used to shiver me everytime I was with them :)
You know you love him or her at this very moment. And yet, you are aware that you actually love the way your loved one makes you feel. After all, could you ever love a person who dislikes you and makes you feel small? How can you love a person who humiliates you and makes you feel worst for yourself? Why do we always love the people who make us feel the best thing on this earth??
To be candid, this is not limited to the concept of love. An appreciative boss, a genuine friend, a proud parent, a doting spouse or an adoring child has a similar effect. All of them can make you feel on top of the world and ready to slay a few demons as you go on your way with a smile on your face and a skip in your step!
Each and every one of us love to love ourselves. In addition to this, appreciation from those we love and admire has a very therapeutic and rejuvenating effect on us.
But, is not the reverse just as true? We end up disliking people who bring out the worst in us and we generally avoid them. They bring out a dose of negativity in us that is best avoided. When you know someone thinks badly of you, being in their company lowers you in your own eyes. Also when you know someone is envious of you or dislikes you, it invites stress and a sense of hatred for that particular person.
Clearly there are people who bring out the best in us and those who bring out the worst. Some people in our lives can make us break into spontaneous laughter, while others can at best inspire jaw-aching artificial smiles. There are those in whose presence we absolutely relax and and those who make us feel tense and on edge. We talk to some without thought or fear and measure every word with some others. There are those whose presence relaxes you and others who stress you out just by being with them.
There are moments in life when we instantly like or dislike someone without any clear reason. And, most of the time these instant likes and dislikes are mutual. In a scenario where both give each other positive strokes, the relationship grows steadily since a source of mutual admiration has been found. And so when you fall in love, you end up creating an illusory world for yourself where you feel exclusively loved and admired. You seek more and more of the good vibes and the attraction grows. And then when love sneaks away and admiration gives way to a reality check and some criticism, the adrenaline just doesn't pump as hard as earlier. You no longer feel as beautiful, as loved or cared for.
It is absolutely natural to love and seek people for the good they bring out in you. And so, it is equally natural to dislike and avoid them when they bring out negative emotions such as envy, jealousy, anger, aggression or hatred.
We love the people who love us and couldn't care less about those who don't. And there is nothing wrong with that. Why waste time with those who rather than help with your growth, drag you back a few steps? Any two people who really care for each other will always help each other grow.
"I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out."
______________________________________________________
So the next time when your heart inclines to be with your girlfriend/boyfriend, and your mind evades the thought of being with your irritating boss, you know what the reason is..You got me...Right? :)
You know you love him or her at this very moment. And yet, you are aware that you actually love the way your loved one makes you feel. After all, could you ever love a person who dislikes you and makes you feel small? How can you love a person who humiliates you and makes you feel worst for yourself? Why do we always love the people who make us feel the best thing on this earth??
To be candid, this is not limited to the concept of love. An appreciative boss, a genuine friend, a proud parent, a doting spouse or an adoring child has a similar effect. All of them can make you feel on top of the world and ready to slay a few demons as you go on your way with a smile on your face and a skip in your step!
Each and every one of us love to love ourselves. In addition to this, appreciation from those we love and admire has a very therapeutic and rejuvenating effect on us.
But, is not the reverse just as true? We end up disliking people who bring out the worst in us and we generally avoid them. They bring out a dose of negativity in us that is best avoided. When you know someone thinks badly of you, being in their company lowers you in your own eyes. Also when you know someone is envious of you or dislikes you, it invites stress and a sense of hatred for that particular person.
Clearly there are people who bring out the best in us and those who bring out the worst. Some people in our lives can make us break into spontaneous laughter, while others can at best inspire jaw-aching artificial smiles. There are those in whose presence we absolutely relax and and those who make us feel tense and on edge. We talk to some without thought or fear and measure every word with some others. There are those whose presence relaxes you and others who stress you out just by being with them.
There are moments in life when we instantly like or dislike someone without any clear reason. And, most of the time these instant likes and dislikes are mutual. In a scenario where both give each other positive strokes, the relationship grows steadily since a source of mutual admiration has been found. And so when you fall in love, you end up creating an illusory world for yourself where you feel exclusively loved and admired. You seek more and more of the good vibes and the attraction grows. And then when love sneaks away and admiration gives way to a reality check and some criticism, the adrenaline just doesn't pump as hard as earlier. You no longer feel as beautiful, as loved or cared for.
It is absolutely natural to love and seek people for the good they bring out in you. And so, it is equally natural to dislike and avoid them when they bring out negative emotions such as envy, jealousy, anger, aggression or hatred.
We love the people who love us and couldn't care less about those who don't. And there is nothing wrong with that. Why waste time with those who rather than help with your growth, drag you back a few steps? Any two people who really care for each other will always help each other grow.
"I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out."
______________________________________________________
So the next time when your heart inclines to be with your girlfriend/boyfriend, and your mind evades the thought of being with your irritating boss, you know what the reason is..You got me...Right? :)
(# Wed 1:45 am)
-
Sometimes I can feel you smiling, I can see you laughing; I can say my things make you feel sometime lighter. You actually laug... -
"I love you , but you don't " "When I can give you time despite my busy schedule, why can't you?" How of... -
I hate my imagination , to give me such crappy and meaningless desires that cannot be fulfilled in reality, or that is not something I w...