A
thought which struck me long back. But I never wanted to think on this.
And somehow today while interacting with a friend I got to hear
something called boredom in relationships.
What
if a relationship gets bored which is perfectly on the right track ?
Everything is well and fine but what if someone feels bored and finds no
'Charm' in the relationship. That was tricky. My instant answer was
then how do people marry and they don't get bored and continue to live
life together till end. My last post was about my friends getting married and wishes and its funny now I am discussing about side effects of relationships and boredom.
I still feel that its just the effect of western
culture thats affecting our thought process. Someone would not have
found this question a decade back. When it comes to relationship,
commitment is the key ingredient. Its not that we get into a
relationship for our own self. I feel its for both the persons. this
used to be the scenario before. But now any relationship you consider
there is a selfish reason. Thats our expectations and our own interest in
it.
Once our interest and expectations are fulfilled we feel the boredom. Is it natural or we keep expecting more and more which makes it boring and monotonous ?
Arent we expecting too much from our
relationships?
Are we seriously looking for each other's happiness?
Are we getting into a materialistic world?
All these questions tend
to answer my own question " Do Relationships Decay".
Now
coming to my very own question, I feel that every relationship comes
with an expiry date. The moment the date ie the period expires the
relationship starts to decay. Exactly like our Planet or a Star does.
The decay may be spontaneous or very gradual which may not appear. But
there is this decay that exists. I am not speaking of only one type of
relationship. What I am talking of is every kind of relationship, may it
be marriage, friendship, brotherhood, child-parent or even the kind
that can't be named (which come at different level,something between love
and friendship).
We can say it to be losing the charm or getting boredom. It may not be only materialistic reason for such decay. As we move on in life and we meet different people, our own thought process changes. Our requirements change. Our environment change. The same people with whom we used to be so close seem to be quite incapable of understanding out plight. Or we tend to lose our own sharing ability. We meet new people who belong to our own environment who can be more comfortable with. The comfort level is what matters. Slowly but steadily every relationship, even the ones we think is immortal starts to decay.
And
who is it to be blamed for such occurance ? Is it we. Is it our selfish
attitude. Is it our needs which change. I would prefer considering it
to be time. Time changes everything. Even our needs. Well our
environment too plays a critical role in this process. Another thing is
our tight schedule and our busy life which leaves us with no time to
analyse such changes and gives us no time to set everything right and to
stop the process of decay.
Previously I used to be quite bothered when I used to lose contact or find that there exists no more the same kind of intimacy with people who mattered a lot in my life. I used to take it quite seriously and feel lost. Now I look back and find that every relationship that I used to be in, has changed with time. And its quite drastic too. Beginning from my own family members to my friends and even to my foes. The intensity of hatred that I used to have for some foe or person has decreased and I can say that I dont even consider him/her to be a foe anymore. It hardly matters whether he/she exists or not, whose existence on the surface of earth was a big botheration for me some years back !!
Same is the case with my friends and family too. Many people who mattered to me a lot, are no more in contact though they still matter a lot in my life. But its just that the process of decay has changed everything. It definitely hurts to look back and find that so much has changed. I wish I could get back to that time and make up everything the way it were. But that's not possible.
Well,
now I feel that I need to accept each change. I need to look ahead to
the new relationships that are waiting to be made. I need not stop and I
should let life play its role. The best thing we can do is play our
part best in any relationship, give in our best efforts to build it and
be happy that it occurred. And regarding the past lost relationships we
should again be happy that it was our part to be played and we played
well and gave our 100 percent efforts. And that which was destined took
place and we are at a better place. Here comes the true beleif in God,
the supreme Power who regulates every action of ours and my faith
increases on "Jo hota hai achhe ke liye hota hai".
May be all these craps are true or its just a phase of my life which is making me to think like this but I can't deny with the fact that there are some people whom we meet, talk, make memories and lastly we lost them. But we always keep a safe corner for them in our heart forever. I could say I knew that very kind of a person and today is her B'day
"You will always be a part of my laugh and smiles. Because that is how I remember you. Today and Forever.
Happy B'day S."
(# 3rd dec 1:45am)
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